Need vs. Want

When it comes to relationships we all have our desires of wants and needs, but which one is more effective or efficient? I don't believe there is a proper way to gauge that from conversation, significant time has to be spent with an individual to know what you need and want from them, also, if you're able to give them what they need and want from you.

We all know what we desire from a relationship, but is that a reality or fantasy? What happens if you fall in love with a person who doesn't know how to lead and you need them to lead because you're not a good Leader? What happens when you need intimacy and not affection, but the person you love is not an affectionate person? 

What happens when the other person needs help dealing with past traumas and you're not emotionally mature enough to support them in their healing journey? There are many more examples I could give and ask, but I believe you understand the point.

Most often times we fall in love before we realize our wants and needs may not be realistic for ourselves or our partner, doesn't mean that you two can't try and work at your needs and wants.  They can be met with patience, love, and some compromise. #thatsurthurty

Cutting People Off

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Thurty 2nds Uv Encouragement Podcast

 

Spiritually Lead. Divine Intervention

Have you ever heard an Elder say "I should have went with my first mind"? What they meant was I should have listened to my Spirit, what the Lord said.  10 times out of 10 we always hear a soft voice that speaks to us, and 9 times out of 10 if not more, we dismiss that voice and learn a lesson or lessons.  Sometimes those lessons are hard.

I encourage you to not only listen to that voice but ask questions of that voice.  Our Spirit is as strong as we will allow it to be and our flesh can get in the way causing us to turn a deaf ear to that voice.  

Hearing and listening to that voice is detrimental to our lives and benefits others as well.  Sometimes that voice speaks to us because someone else is ignoring it and we are used as a vessel to confirm what that person heard, yet ignored. Keep your ears open and go with your 'first mind'. #thatsurthurty

Thurty's Shorts

Boundaries

To guard your heart and create an atmosphere of personal peace, boundaries have to be set in every area of your life.  Most often times that will require things, people, places, etc., to be removed from your life.  You will have to determine the time frame, if there is one.  It has been my experience to remove permanently, things are so much peaceful that way. #thatsurthurty

Podcast Episode: Boundaries

Social Media Effect

When was the last time you've been at a social event and didn't pull out your phone for anything other than to check for messages?  Most of us can't say we have.  We may have started out checking for messages, but then checked our social media account, or, accounts by habit. 

As a society our inability to socialize without our phones or electronic devices has become very close to normal.  Our conversations and/or responses to others are more in depth on social media than in person.

Social Media has also become the platform for alter ego's, and the information place of society lifestyle decorum.  This is very out of place as to how one can create a platform on social media, gather a large following, claim to be an expert in whatever field they fantasize of, and convince a mass of people that their opinions and experiences are one in the same. 

I encourage all to think for yourself, detach from social media as your source of socializing and actually get out to socialize, or at least interact with real people, even if it's to speak to someone in passing. #thatsurthurty

Podcast Episode: Social Media Effect II

Social Media Effect Short

Growing Apart(Maturity Level)

There are going to be some people we believed we would have long lasting relationships, to come to an end.  Most often times it's no fault of either party, it's due to the pattern or rate of
growth.  

Some of us evolve faster than others, then there are some of us who grow in a different direction due to different experiences and exposures, which gears a person's aspirations and goals into a direction that maybe they didn't even see coming.  

Everyone has a Journey, and sometimes that Journey is to be traveled minus the person or people you desired to travel with you.  Everyone can't go where you're going, and you have to discern how and when to travel alone. #thatsurthurty

Podcast Episode: Different Levels(Maturity)