Our Last Hours Together

 

Correction.....Dec 31, 2015 was a Thursday.  My Son passed Friday after midnight. 

I Don't Like Wednesday's Anymore

 

Intimacy is Peace

If you've associated the topic with sex, please continue to read.  When speaking of Peace on Earth this is a saying of society norm in regards to the Holidays, but this should be year round, and it should pertain to all things in your life. 

One of the aspects of Peace that I advocate for is Intimacy.  For me, Intimacy is peace, privacy, and security.  A place I have control of, and allow in whom or what I want.  I can also dismiss when a season has been outgrown.  Yes, intimacy has levels.  I encourage you to discover, or rediscover intimacy in whatever way it means to you. New Year. New Level of Intimacy. #thatsurthurty

Late Night. Early Mornings

 

     

 Late night rides are calm and soothing.  Most often times I take one after a stressful day, when I need to think, want to be alone, and a few other reasons.  I also use it as a means of relieving stress, and it works.  I always keep a small bag packed, as sometimes my late night rides take me to another city.  I then take that opportunity for a quick getaway.  I encourage you to take rides, day or night.  Get away.  Take and make time for yourself, no matter how long or short.  #thatsurthurty

Thurty 2nds Podcast Episode: Take A Ride

Live on Purpose

There were many times in my life that I believed I was living, when in actuality I was just existing living in survival mode.  I wasn't living the life I should have been, I was living for others and I didn't understand that when you live for others, your life depends on them.

So what happens when those people leave you, or you have to leave them?  I'll tell you what....you find yourself in search of who you are.  You also realize how much time you've wasted.  

I'm thankful that time has past and I learned from it.  I now know how to live for me, while being an encouragement to others. I live on purpose for the purpose of living.  I encourage you to do the same. #thatsurthurty

Let's Call A Truce

There a many in our society of different religions and sects who are offended, and  opposed to the idea, or symbolism of Santa Claus and Jesus during the Holidays. Most specific, Christmas. 

Some believe Christmas Day to be Christs' birthday, and we should give gifts of appreciation of love as told the Wise Men did. Others believe that Santa Claus will drop gifts in their chimney if they've been 'good' throughout the year.  

There are other groups of people who are; neutral, groups of people who could care less and just anticipate the time off work, and even more groups of people who are either Historians, Scientist, Theologians, etc,. who will debate doctrine, documentation, and so on.

There are even more debates than that, so I'll encourage you to call a truce on what you do and don't believe, and take this time of year to just be at peace.  Dismiss and remove anyone and thing not associated to peace.

Enjoy the calm and somberness of it all whether you are spending time with family and friends, or alone.  If you're giving and exchanging gifts, attending parties, or sharing in a great feasted meal, please.....I encourage you to just be at peace.  #thatsurthurty

Podcast Episode: Let's Call A Truce

Home Sick For The South

I'm a Southern Woman that was raised in the north.  Thank GOD for a great set of parents that made sure I was in the know of where I originated.

I often travel south throughout the year, and when I'm there......I eat!  I indulge in all that I desire.

Well, today I'm not in the South, I'm up North and I'm in need of some good ole' fried Catfish.  My side dish is grilled squash and zucchini.  Most often I would have two pieces of dark bread or fries, not today.  Too much fried food at one time isn't good for the body so I digress. #thatsurthurty

Love Yourself(Self Respect)

I spent a lot of time in my adulthood wondering why others didn't respect me in the way they should without me being very direct, or, brutally honesty.  

I realized I wasn't loving myself enough as I was being passive with people in certain arenas, and situations.  With this understanding I learned to say 'no'.  

I learned not to help people or put myself in a position to help if I didn't want to, and steered clear of the 'it's the right thing to do' mentality.

I came to the conclusion that people will treat you the way they see you treat yourself, so I showed others the love I have of myself.  

Love for yourself is easy to see, hard to ignore and commands the respect of others whether they want to or not.   #thatsurthurty  

Podcast Episode: Love Yourself(Self Respect)

Set Your Own Board

Most would look at my Chess Board and
immediately come to the conclusion that nothing about it makes sense.  It's not supposed to......to you. It's my board, my strategy. 

Chess is a game of strategic thinking, much as is life. We all live according to our own standards and should not follow those of others, as our lives and lifestyles are not the same.  

We all share the similarities of there being victories, loss, mistakes, and corrections.  There will also be life lessons in people, money, relationships, etc., as well as many failures and accomplishments. Chess.  Life.  

Set your board up and strategize according to your desires, dreams, goals, and purpose. #thatsurthurty 

Gullible vs. Naive

I don't know which one is worse, being gullible or naive.  I've been both, to never be them again.

I encourage all who are reading this to stand on your principles, set and keep your standards.  Don't compromise for anyone or any situation.

There are people who will study you, then try you.  They base who you are off of your response to their first attempt, then they try again.  If you allow something, or don't speak up on a matter, they will continue to treat you the way they believe they can; manipulating and using you. 

I encourage you to speak out right away, not being concerned of the other person or persons being offended.  Their intention was to use you, them being offended by your correction further confirms their personal agenda for you.

Speak up.  Speak out.  Stand on your principles. Enforce your standards. #thatsurthurty

Podcast Episode: Don't Move Him In

Be Greatful For What GOD Has Already Given

I came across this interview some time ago and continue to listen to it.  There are times when I'm encouraged by the testimonies of others.  I'm furthered encouraged by their courage to share.  

The entire interview is very encouraging, but, its here in the opening of how Mr. Harvey speaks of in his pursuit for more, and GOD reminds him to be grateful for what he's already been given. Great reminder from the Creator. 

I hope you are encouraged by this clip, and I encourage you to watch and or listen to the entire interview. #thatsurthurty

There Is More

So you've reached back and picked up some things that you let go of, or allowed someone to talk you out of.  That's good.  Keep at it and don't let go this time, and know........there is more.

There's more that you desired that's attached to the things you're now pursuing again.  So much more.  More than you can ever imagine, and......it's not too late to go after those things as well. 

Congratulations on reaching back and looking forward.  I encourage you to allow your creativity to continue to create more creativity. #thatsurthurty

Podcast Epidsode: Don't Let Them Talk You Out Of It

Listening To Others

On a regular basis you will find me encouraging others to encourage themselves.  I do this as I've experienced times when I needed encouragement and no one encouraged me.  I was given the ole', 'it'll be alright', or, 'give it to GOD', and the most infamous, 'pray about it'.

Those phrases most often times, ties my last good nerve into a knot.  They are so cliche' with no warrant or measure of substance. Just something for the other person or persons to say to end the conversation, because they didn't know what to say.  Most often times its a lack of concern.

This is one of the main reasons I read books, listen to certain podcast, and watch documentaries.  I love to listen to the testimonies and experiences of others, as sometimes I struggle with encouraging myself. 

Listening to the happening and experiences that others have gone through allows the reminder of, if they can get through what they've gone, so I can I.  If they achieved what they desired, so I can. The circumstance and process will be different, but I can still accomplish and pursue.

Now, you can't listen to everyone.  Some folks are flat out ignorant, but you can learn and be warned of what not to do.  I encourage you not to take in too much of what a person is saying if it's not fruitful.  Please don't spend too much time in that space.  I would hate for that ignorant spirit they carry to latch onto you.

When you can't encourage yourself, I encourage you to find a good book, podcast, documentary, online interview, etc.  Something that's worthy of your of time to nourish your soul.  Be encouraged. #thatsurthurty

My First Self-Published Book! Ms. Mary

Small book with a big purpose. This is my first ever book published and I chose to write of my own experience.

Ms. Mary is a real person whom I came to know in a way I didn't expect, and further taught me a great lesson of what it is to operate in the spirit of determination. Everyone needs a Ms. Mary experience. 

Non-fiction, memoire's and biographies are more inspirational for me so I chose to write my own. I do believe many will be encouraged and inspired by this short book. Many more to come. Thank you all for your support.  ~Kristi