One concerning themselves with the material gain or lack of material things a person can 'Bring to the Table' is far from what they should be initially concerned with. I encourage all to be concerned with what a person brings emotionally and mentally. Also, what is their ability and capacity to function in a relationship at their current level, with the ability to grow. #thatsurthurty
Podcast Episode: Before the Table
There are many women who are about to lose the one man who desires to be what they need him to be; to and for them. These women are about to lose because they don't realize that they've won. They've won the battle of being abused, mistreated, passed off and over from one guy to the next....but they don't realize it because they're still in fight mode from a past, and possibly previous relationships. Put down your guard Sis, you're fighting against the one who wants to fight for you. Heal.
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Thurty's Short: Let Him Love You
Women should take the Men who are interested in them to the Men in their Family, or the Man in their life. The Man should ask to meet the Men in the woman's family if he's genuinely interested before she mentions it, but that doesn't always happen, just as the man doesn't always ask the woman to marry. Sometimes the woman ask the man and that's okay, whatever works for the couple, but.........there most definitely needs to be a meeting of the Men.
There are, have been, and may be more times in your life when you are knocked down by; circumstance, happenings, people, and even self inflicted pains and suffering. Doesn't mean you have to stay there. Get back up!.....and go even higher than you were before you were down so that when the next trial and or tribulation comes, it won't be so hard for you to get your footing. #thatsurthurty
Unfortunately there are a lot of people who have been dealing with and suffering abuse from Family. Abuse which also reflects disrespect and an entire host of other things that were not corrected, whether the abuse and disrespect began from childhood or adulthood, the bad behavior wasn't corrected and should have been.
Unfortunately for those family members who display and do such things afore mentioned, they believe they can continue to do those things even when a person has told them their actions, words, etc., hurt them. It's like second nature and they believe nothing is wrong with it. We argue, we fight, we makeup....that's the way it goes....that's what we do. Wrong!
That's what you've been allowed to do and you don't have the right to do that just because you're Family. Family don't hurt Family. Yes, we make mistakes and are not perfect, but that doesn't give you the Right to continue bad behaviors, disrespect, abuse, etc.
I encourage all to correct your behaviors when someone has told you that you're hurting them. If you choose not to, don't be surprised or shocked when 'Family' begins to distance themselves from you. #thatsurthurty
